If you could change one thing about yourself.....

Admin Posts : 1798 Join date : 2009-10-19 Age : 48

What would you change

For me, it would be my loudness ( not sure if that is even a word) LOL

But I come from a very loud family. If you wanted to be heard you have to be loud. Even though I do work on this on a daily basis.. I find myself becoming louder even more so to prove a point.

Settling in Posts : 223 Join date : 2009-10-20 Age : 44

my shyness, I wish I was as outgoing as my husband. I wish I could get a job as easily as he can.

Learning the Ropes Posts : 108 Join date : 2009-11-04

Im with smurry. Luke is outgoing, and can charm anyone. Im shy, and it takes time to warm up to people. That actually is one issue in our relationship. Its hard to be outgoing when your shy. I absolutly hate meeting new people.. Im not sure why..

I would also, love to think of a carreer and just go for it. Im 24 and I have no clue what it is I want in life. I know I love animals, but there's some aspect that I dont think I would be able to do.

I wish I could relax more often. Just let things go.. Im constantly thinking about bills, cleaning, the dogs, to a point where im not allowing myself to just enjoy life..

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The one thing i wish I could change is holding a grudge . I can hold on to being angry at someone I feel has betrayed me or disappointed me . I moved away from my family in Indy over 24 yrs ago and besides my parents haven't had much to do with any of them if they came down to Florida to visit my Parents I was polite but never tried to be a part of the family.

I still don't like any of them but sometimes I worry that I am able to just turn off my emotions and not even think about them much at all . Is this normal ?

Newbie Posts : 37 Join date : 2009-10-27

feathers wrote:: The one thing i wish I could change is holding a grudge . I can hold on to being angry at someone I feel has betrayed me or disappointed me . I moved away from my family in Indy over 24 yrs ago and besides my parents haven't had much to do with any of them if they came down to Florida to visit my Parents I was polite but never tried to be a part of the family.

I still don't like any of them but sometimes I worry that I am able to just turn off my emotions and not even think about them much at all . Is this normal ?

I'm with you on this one.
Why waste energy on people who aren't important to you? I think being able to
turn off those emotions can be a good thing. There are times we get so caught up in
emotions we don't know how to deal with them.

Being completely void of emotion is another thing though.

Learn not to be a total doormat. It's taken a lot of years to get as far as I have, but wish I had gotten here much sooner, less painfully and further than I have.

To be more assertive!! I am like a well used doormat sometimes.

I'd lose the weight I've gained since my health went bad...Unfortunately it is nearly impossible as my health is bad & I can't get around as well as I need to. Sad

I'd like the ability to stop wanting to 'fix' everything for everyone else when sometimes it affects my own well-being. Hard to explain but sometimes you just need to say NO without having to explain yourself. I've gotten better though over the last couple years but admit to having one friend that sometimes just gets to me ... Please tell me walking away as opposed to punching her in the face is the appropriate way to handle things LOL

Mini wrote:: What would you change

For me, it would be my loudness ( not sure if that is even a word) LOL

But I come from a very loud family. If you wanted to be heard you have to be loud. Even though I do work on this on a daily basis.. I find myself becoming louder even more so to prove a point.

I am the same way. For different reasons though. I am the black sheep in my family, and I was always overlooked, so I yelled to get heard. It worked, but by the time I got to yelling, I was not saying nice things. Now I usually just talk REALLY loud when I am excited or startled or when I'm laughing, I'm very loud.

I find other LOUD people irritating, like one of my aunts, she drives me bonkers, and am hoping I'm not like that to others. Shocked

Oh well. My best friend is the same way, and it drives my husband nuts when we get together. LMAO

Maybe that means I'm a dramaqueen? If my kid falls and gets hurt, I scream, "OMG! ARE YOU OKAY?" Instead of asking calmly; which for some reason gets my kid more upset. LOL Working on it doesn't help much either.

I would definatley like to change the fact that I do not stop talking, and do not know when to stop writing, and unless someone cuts me off, they'll not get a word in edgewise. But if I cut you off, I will ALWAYS try to come back to exactly where I cut you off. That's likely why I don't have many friends. ONly those that can tolerate it, and they are the kind that do the same thing, so we never can finish a conversation. JK.

I am too serious and can be quite critical - of myself and others. I wish I was able to hold my tongue.

Warmed up Posts : 1116 Join date : 2009-10-24 Age : 113

My eyesight. I'm pretty much legally blind without corrective lenses.

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