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PostSubject: MIK.. MIK.. MIK... caring minds want to know   Mon 18 Jan 2010, 10:41 pm

Hey did you get your results back?

Everything okay
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PostSubject: Re: MIK.. MIK.. MIK... caring minds want to know   Mon 18 Jan 2010, 11:49 pm

Mika???

lol.. Is this for me?

if yes, then on the 27th.. Im nervous as hell!! What if its soemthing ridiculous, or that needs surgery.. gawd I cant afford anything right now!

As long as its nothing like cancer, or something that will put me in the grave, then i'll be thanking the lord! I doubt it, cause they had me open on the table and they didnt say anything about cancer, and the biopsy of the ovarie they took out came back negative..

You know what agravates me.. Some chick that Luke works for got a MRI within a month for a stupid knee. I have been waiting for 5 months, and I have been bleeding for like 7 months straight (sorry, I know gross).. Our health care system SUCKS!!

I will let you all know as soon as I know!! I have been feeling alot better for the last 3 weeks, exept for the bleeding.. Im not sure what is going on, but I havent had to relie on advils to do my day for 3 weeks now!!! its a positive!!

Thanks for asking!!
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PostSubject: Re: MIK.. MIK.. MIK... caring minds want to know   Tue 19 Jan 2010, 12:17 am

OUr system does care..


Not to push the buttons.. when my hubby had a herniated discs(SP) in his neck.. He got an MRI that day they ordered it in the morning had it at 100 pm.

But the difference is.. he is military and the military pays for it.. ( I THINK) Not too sure................though..


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PostSubject: Re: MIK.. MIK.. MIK... caring minds want to know   Tue 19 Jan 2010, 12:24 am

hahah, and I would see why, cause it probably hurts like a bitch.. and he is in the army..

That doesnt offend me, but this chick can walk ok, talk ok, and work ok..

I dont get it!! haha

I cant wait to know, and put this aside and move on with my life!!
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PostSubject: Re: MIK.. MIK.. MIK... caring minds want to know   Tue 19 Jan 2010, 1:48 am

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hahah, and I would see why, cause it probably hurts like a bitch.. and he is in the army..

That doesnt offend me, but this chick can walk ok, talk ok, and work ok..

I dont get it!! haha

I cant wait to know, and put this aside and move on with my life!!

poop I ment to say doesn't care

sorry went on the wii fit.. LMAO

Hey mika.. have a great thing.. you may want to message me..........
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PostSubject: Re: MIK.. MIK.. MIK... caring minds want to know   Tue 19 Jan 2010, 1:57 am

I hope it gets better for you soon Mika.... 7 months is a loooong time...

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PostSubject: Re: MIK.. MIK.. MIK... caring minds want to know   Tue 19 Jan 2010, 10:59 am

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hahah, and I would see why, cause it probably hurts like a bitch.. and he is in the army..

That doesnt offend me, but this chick can walk ok, talk ok, and work ok..

I dont get it!! haha

I cant wait to know, and put this aside and move on with my life!!

poop I ment to say doesn't care

sorry went on the wii fit.. LMAO

Hey mika.. have a great thing.. you may want to message me..........

Send me it on my Facebook inbox mini!! I'd love to hear it!!

Thanks K Bullet, and yes its a hell of a long time!!
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PostSubject: Re: MIK.. MIK.. MIK... caring minds want to know   Wed 27 Jan 2010, 7:11 pm

As promissed, here are the results.

The mass has grown, and it was discovered that there is in fact some solid tissue in the mass which is rarely a good thing.

This can mean anything from a collection of blood or tisse, endeometrisis(sp) or it can also mean cancer, which she thinks is very rare for people my age.. They discovered that the mass is attached to my tube as well as ovarie..

She seemed pretty worried, and is thinking about going ahead with the surgery. She will discuss my case to a colleague and will get back to me as to what should be done next. Either way, I will be having MRI's every 3 months or so until surgery or until it is resolved.. With the surgery because of the scar tissue, as soon as my ovarie bleeds, she will have to remove it. Meaning I will have menopause, becaume harry, and will not be able to have children.. Wow, Im guessing luke is super pleased marrying me LOL. I also spoke about being able to get pregnant and she thinks as it stands now, that she thinks I dont really have much of a chance to get pregnant without help..

She is saying that Im a really odd case, herself as the one who did my surgery has never seen anything like it. it seemed as if she didnt really want to perform the surgery herself, she wanted to transfer my case back to Sudbury, but I REALLY dont want them touching me again. They fucked up big time last time. She has spoken to my surgeon who performed the surgery and has stated that they needed 2 surgeon as it became a very complicated surgery as I am full of scar tissue, and all is glued together..

pretty shitty news, I have been feeling good for the last month or so, so was hoping for some good news.. argg

Soo thats it.. 5 months waiting, and the news are not clearer then they ever where..
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PostSubject: Re: MIK.. MIK.. MIK... caring minds want to know   Wed 27 Jan 2010, 7:32 pm

Oh Mika, that must be so stressful. Please try not to get down hearted.

It may be that things will work out better than you hope for. If not, then what ever you do......always look at it as just a different road from what you thought you would travel.

A couple I have known since being teenagers together, who had planned on a whole houseful of kids when they married found themselves in much the same position. On their honeymoon she suffered a ruptured appendix and nearly died. As a result of the damage, she underwent an emergency total hysterectomy and their plans for that family seemed to be a dream lost. With hormone replacement therapy she avoided the menopause issues and they adopted two beautiful girls who are the loves of their lives.

I'm so sorry you are facing further surgery and the questions are still unanswered. But please know that I and everyone else here has you in their thoughts and prayers. Any time you want to vent, need a shoulder to lean on or even arms to hold you close........remember, even though some of it may just be 'virtual', we are here. (((HUGS)))
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PostSubject: Re: MIK.. MIK.. MIK... caring minds want to know   Wed 27 Jan 2010, 7:50 pm

I don't know you Mika but I just wanted to send you some well wishes as it sounds like you need it. I'm so sorry that you have to endure this!!

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PostSubject: Re: MIK.. MIK.. MIK... caring minds want to know   Wed 27 Jan 2010, 8:35 pm

Thanks guys!!

I have an amazing person in my life, and he has been there with me the whole way through.

Everytime I tell him to think twice about starting a life with me, he always says that hes with me for me, not of my abilities to conceive children, even though he always wanted a large family.

There are soo many kids out there that need loving homes, maybe this is my destination, give a couple kids a great life.. I know the adoption process is not easy, but nothing is in life.

Once she calls me, I will be asking if she can maybe transfer my file to Southern Ontario, maybe someone a little more specialised in this area. I very much like her, as she has been following me the most out of everyone I have seen in the last year, but she is right out of medical school, and she doesnt seem very confident in doing this surgery, I really don't blame her, especially if it took 2 surgeons the 1st time, and these surgeons have been around quite some time..

I just can't wait to be done with it. have all my answers, be done with it all, and move on with my life.

Either way, as for surgery I am hoping that if its a must, then hopefully they can wait till after my wedding. Its it 4 months and I can't afford 6 weeks off of work right now.. Shitty how finances get in the way, but I guess thats life..

Thanks again guys!!
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PostSubject: Re: MIK.. MIK.. MIK... caring minds want to know   Wed 27 Jan 2010, 8:37 pm

Mika, first, I'm sorry about the bad news. It sucks and we will be here for you to vent whenever you need.

Second, your fiance is not marrying you for your ability to make babies... he loves you for you and this will not change it... trust me, I had those same feelings.

We love you and are hoping for the best, please keep us updated if you can so we can be there for you.
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PostSubject: Re: MIK.. MIK.. MIK... caring minds want to know   Wed 27 Jan 2010, 8:50 pm

kbullet wrote:
Mika, first, I'm sorry about the bad news. It sucks and we will be here for you to vent whenever you need.

Second, your fiance is not marrying you for your ability to make babies... he loves you for you and this will not change it... trust me, I had those same feelings.

We love you and are hoping for the best, please keep us updated if you can so we can be there for you.
<-- kinda a creepy hug, but it will have to do.
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Bullet did you ever go see a specialist? I read something about having major pain on your periods, maybe you have pcos, or endeometrisis(sp)? Possibly even just a cyst? What about fertility treatment?

I think as a women, its like asif we are males and our nuts just got chopped off, Im thinking its probably about the same feeling.. its almost like a failure feeling as a women.. it sucks. When Luke's sister had her baby I cried, and Im guessing its only going to suck here on out when people close to me have children..

thanks Bullet!!!
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PostSubject: Re: MIK.. MIK.. MIK... caring minds want to know   Wed 27 Jan 2010, 8:58 pm

MIk

YOu are an amazing person and no matter the outcome. If you need anything or just somewhere to vent.. You know you are more then welcome to contact me.
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PostSubject: Re: MIK.. MIK.. MIK... caring minds want to know   Wed 27 Jan 2010, 9:03 pm

Mika, I had no intention on ever sharing this here but as a couple who can not conceive I totally understand what you mean about people close to you having babies and I know how hard this is for me so I totally get what you are saying here. The closer they are and the more involved you are in their lives, its hard and I know for myself sometimes I just have to back off and refocus. I know that one day we will have our own family and it will make no difference how that happens so long as it happens. Just knowing that is what allows me to not dwell on the issues, which I understand is different for you seeing as you still have the medical challenges but I'm rambling...sorry!!

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PostSubject: Re: MIK.. MIK.. MIK... caring minds want to know   Wed 27 Jan 2010, 9:17 pm

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Mika, first, I'm sorry about the bad news. It sucks and we will be here for you to vent whenever you need.

Second, your fiance is not marrying you for your ability to make babies... he loves you for you and this will not change it... trust me, I had those same feelings.

We love you and are hoping for the best, please keep us updated if you can so we can be there for you.
<-- kinda a creepy hug, but it will have to do.
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Bullet did you ever go see a specialist? I read something about having major pain on your periods, maybe you have pcos, or endeometrisis(sp)? Possibly even just a cyst? What about fertility treatment?

I think as a women, its like asif we are males and our nuts just got chopped off, Im thinking its probably about the same feeling.. its almost like a failure feeling as a women.. it sucks. When Luke's sister had her baby I cried, and Im guessing its only going to suck here on out when people close to me have children..

thanks Bullet!!!

I was diagnosed with PCOS last year... so when I say I know how you feel.. I mean it.... It kills me that all these idiots out there can get pregnant instantly and intelligent people who should have children can't. If ever you want to talk, msn me and I'll send you my home phone number.

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PostSubject: MIK..MIK..   Thu 28 Jan 2010, 3:07 am

I have a slightly different prespective on this situation than what the others have said. First - if you were my fiance - I'd be wanting to sit down and talk with both you and your Doctor as to what procedure offers the best guarantee that you will be around to be my companion for the next 50 years. If that means a total hysterectomy than so be it. If that is the best procedure that will guarantee you will no longer be suffering in pain and discomfort and be better for your over all health then have the surgery now - don't put it off - as if there is a remote chance that it may be cancer or lead to cancer (doesn't matter how remote) a week is to long to wait - you can always catch up on your fiances later.
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PostSubject: Re: MIK.. MIK.. MIK... caring minds want to know   Thu 28 Jan 2010, 2:10 pm

Well it was a long ride back home, and iv'e done my fair share of thinking.. I.think your absolutly right mcauly. I think its time for me to find me a surgeon that is 100% confident and go with it. They may be able to save it. Me and my doctors has had the conversation 100 times, the pros and the cons of going with it. Losing both ovaries at such a young age puts you at a much higher risk of heart attacks later in life, also affects your bones.. but cancer will only put me in the grave, especially ovarian. Also if it does burst then I have no choice and will be stuck losing it, without a choice and with a surgeon that I know nothing about in the emergency room..

Im still waiting on that phone call, but There's something inside of me that tells me she might be only delaying treatment cause she's not quite sure as to what to do...

Thanks to the ladies who has replied..I was never aware that unfertility was such an issue..

Bullet your awesome. Good things happen to good people, with dedication Im sure it will happen for you!!

Thanks so much guys! I know im rambling but I dont have much friends that care much about this, they think its only ovaries so what? Its a huge decision to make and will affect me in soo many ways, its a scary step to take! xo
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PostSubject: MIK..MIK..   Thu 28 Jan 2010, 3:40 pm

My friend your doing whats right - so have a speedy recovery. Infertility is not a major issue - it is very common. I have many friends who due to hysterectomy, or infertility were unable to have children -and- not one is childless. They all went the adoption route - my best friend - his wife had her hysterectomy at age 25 - that was 0ver 30 years ago and they adopted 4 children - 2 were open adoption and 2 were sealed adoption. These kids are now grown and pumping out the grandchildren much to my friends delight. I have other friends who also adopted - one adopted children who had physical disabilities and another who adopted children with mental disabilities due to their biological mothers drinking and drug abuse. Again these kids are now grown and independent - and you know the children even though they were special needs gave as much back to their adoptive parents as the parents gave to them. Have your surgery - get yourself married - spend a year getting use to having a husband and someone sharing your bed - someone who just happens to snore, burp, fart, toss, turn, kick, pass gas and talk in their sleep - then come back and discuss adoptions - as their are many routes and avenues available for you to take in finding the perfect bundle of joy to complement and extend your family.
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PostSubject: Re: MIK.. MIK.. MIK... caring minds want to know   Thu 28 Jan 2010, 10:42 pm

Mika I wish you the best, sorry it ended up this way for you but I agree with the others and you will make the best of what fate has handed you. Smile Smile Smile
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PostSubject: Re: MIK.. MIK.. MIK... caring minds want to know   Thu 28 Jan 2010, 10:54 pm

Mika, you rock too.... I wish for nothing but the best for you. Seriously though, if ever you need support, get my number and we'll talk.

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PostSubject: Re: MIK.. MIK.. MIK... caring minds want to know   Thu 28 Jan 2010, 10:56 pm

You have all made me tear up....

Mikera.. No matter what each one of us are here for you. I also agree with mcauley. and the others.


We will be here for you.... now and always...
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PostSubject: Re: MIK.. MIK.. MIK... caring minds want to know   Fri 29 Jan 2010, 12:03 am

Mika hang in there and when the time comes you are ready to talk adoptiong I will talk all day and half the night about it.

Please take care of your overall health first and worry about the finances later

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